Do any of these sound familiar?
“My problems aren’t big enough to come to therapy.”
“There are so many people who have it worse than me.”
“Coming to Therapy Seems Indulgent”
For many people new to therapy, feelings of guilt and shame are common. Specifically it can be common to feel guilty about having problems. If this is you I completely understand how difficult it may be to give yourself space and permission to have problems. You may have come from a life of privilege. Possibly you have two loving parents and plenty of friends. You might even have all that AND a fulfilling job that many people would love to have.
EVEN IF you have those things, none of those make you immune to being human. Being human means you have complex emotional experiences from moment to moment. Being human means some things can be upsetting without you fully understanding why. Being human can also mean always wanting to be better no matter how great life seems on paper.
Allow Yourself To Have Unpleasant Emotions
If you don’t take anything else from this brief article, please understand this:
You deserve permission to feel and work through the full range of human experience
Yes I’m talking to you, CEO and father of two. Yes I’m talking to you, Vice President of the banking world. Yes I’m talking to you, college graduate with the world ahead of you.
No matter your background or ethnicity or social class, you will have down moments, you will struggle with decisions and identity and your place in the world. And that’s ok. Your therapy sessions are meant for you to be the best version of yourself and that just can’t happen if you don’t look at the dark, shadowy unpleasant parts. We all have them. (If you want to learn more about exploring our shadow selves, you may enjoy this article.)
Consider giving yourself permission to take care of all the complex parts of yourself Therapy is a great place to start. Want to chat about how therapy can help? Connect with us today.