Couples Therapy
Marriage struggles post baby?
Considering divorce but want to give it one more try?
Dating and need to resolve conflict?
Whatever your needs, some of the basic principles are the same.
What you need is a collaborative mediator with the knowledge and tools to shift the dynamic for the better.
Whether you are seeking online couples therapy or you are looking for an in-person couples therapy retreat, I am available to provide a customized experience to meet your needs. Together we review your goals, both collective and individual, and develop a plan specific to you. Do you need a mediator? Or someone to be tough with you both? Is the relationship suffering from a failure to communicate well?
You may already know exactly what you need to put your relationship in a better direction or we may need to slow down and dive deeper into what might work best for you both. Whatever the case we will go at a pace that works for everyone.
Ruchelle Khanna can help couples to…
Improve Communication
Lyme and other chronic illness can impair our ability to communicate. Therapy can help you overcome new challenges in order to again feel understood and supported by our partner.
Learn Healthy Ways to Fight
Disagreements don’t always have to be traumatic experiences. You and your partner can learn ways to argue more productively.
Solve Problems Together
So many day-to-day issues can compound when we are sick. Couples Therapy can help you navigate changes in responsibility and expectations.
Work to Heal Grief
You and your partner may be grieving the past life you had together before the illness came into the picture. Couples therapy can allow you both to process grief together.
Couples Therapy is serious business but we can also have fun
From the very first session all conversations are solution-focused. I do begin with an assessment process but am also aware you value your time and want to jump into the issues right away.
I also bring humor and lightness to very difficult topics. Whether it’s thru the exercises we do or learning to speak in a less emotionally charged way, we can learn to be a little less serious sometimes.
Strengthen and embolden your relationship with an experienced therapist!
With over 20 years of experience I am no stranger to conversations about violent communication. In fact, one of the first things we begin to do together is establish knowledge and rules about how to communicate nonviolently. Sessions will be a safe place to process anger in a way that does not overwhelm your partner.
In my work as the director of a substance abuse clinic, I am equipped to address issues of alcohol and drug abuse.
Infidelity is also a topic we can discuss in an open and honest way. In fact, honesty is one of the key values when coming into any type of relationship therapy. Please review my policy on no secrets in relationship therapy.
Let’s Strengthen Your Couple Bubble!
We find it helpful for couples to think of their relationship as happening in a bubble. Your relationship immune system if you will. In fact, there is alot of research that shows your relationship has a tremendous impact on your body’s immune system as well! My goal is to help you strengthen that system so that the relationship supports. nourishes and cares for you in return.
Can we do therapy if we aren’t married?
Of course! Couples therapy is great for married couples, dating couples, premarital, as well as friends, business partners, etc. Essentially any intimate relationship that needs improved.
I’m worried we are going to fight during the session.
No worries. I provide a safe space and the first priority is modeling nonviolent communication.
Thinking of Getting Started with Couples Therapy?
You might have some questions -
The initial phone call or email: I would love to set up a 15-minute video chat with both of you to discuss your needs. You are also welcome to call on your own to get more information and learn a bit more about me.
The first session: You only need to commit to one session of couples therapy to start–not sign up for a whole course of therapy. I am a Gottman Level 2 Certified Couples Therapist. That means my intake takes place in three sessions.
I will ask questions about you personally as well as the relationship. There will also be some forms to complete ahead of time.